So its been like, I dont know…(3 months, 1 week & 2 days) since graduation & guess who’s still unemployed? Well I don’t think that was too hard to figure out, but yes. It me. Anyways, you guys know how much I talk about my self love journey & I personally enjoy documenting the lessons that I’ve been learning along the way. Right now im stuck between sections “damn I was better off not getting this second degree” & “just be patient Chalcia”. If this chapter of my life were a movie it would definitely be called, “The Wait” because honestly, 3 months is a very, very long time! As long as this wait has been I would be lying if I said I haven’t learned a few lessons along the way. First things first,
- Be Proactive
Stay busy! Work on something you love. Pick up a hobby. The more time you spend doing something, the less time you have to feel sorry for yourself. Let’s use me as an example. I’ve always wanted to do hair but never pursued it because it wasn’t a part of my “plan”. My plan was to go to college, get a degree & find a job. Easy right? During my last internship, right before graduation I met a woman who changed my entire mindset in 10 minutes. Mid conversation this woman looked at me & said,
“if you’re good at something, why aren’t you making money from it & if you love doing it, why aren’t you pursuing it?”
It wasn’t until that moment I realized that by not doing hair, I was not only missing out on opportunities, but potential income as well. Ever since then I’ve been braiding hair, practicing new styles/techniques and slowly building my brand/clientele. I make more money braiding hair & working my own hours than I have working part time. I’ve never taken something this serious & it feels great to have something I can call my own, especially on this journey of finding employment. I would be depressed af if I were just sitting on my butt, waiting for the phone to ring.
- You Are Not Alone!
It is soooooooo important to have a strong support system.
Surround yourself with people who can (& are willing to) help support you through this transition, not only financially & physically, but mentally as well.
Post graduation depression is REAL & a lot of mine came from me telling myself that nobody understood how I felt & believing that nobody could possibly relate. There is some comfort in knowing that you are not alone, regardless of the situation. There is also a great deal of comfort in being surrounded by people who love you & want nothing more than to see you succeed/be happy in life. Get people in your corner who don’t hesitate to pray for you or w/ you. Surround yourself w/ positive energy (people). This may sound pretty simple but it makes the journey so much easier.
- You Are Good Enough
Applying for positions and not getting them because you don’t have 5 years of experience & a bunch of certifications when you’re a fresh graduate is like applying for a loan and getting denied for not having enough credit. I’m not sure if that was a good comparison, but needless to say, its both frustrating and discouraging. After hearing too many no’s & maybe’s, its easy to start questioning your talents and accomplishments. Its easy to get lost in a pool of self pity when it seems like everyone around is prospering but you. But it is suuuuuuper important to remember that you those things do NOT determine your worth. You are still you, even if you don’t get that job. God didn’t bring you this far to leave you out in the cold……which brings me to my last point.
- God’s Got You!
I can say this a thousand times & still find the time to say it a thousand more. God’s got you! There’s a song on gospel singer Anthony Brown’s new album “A Long Way From Sunday” called ‘Trust In You’. It starts off like “you did not create me to worry, you did not create me to fear” & the very first time I heard this song I burst into tears. I have such a hard time with waiting on God to do anything. I am constantly praying for patience because I want to get to the point where I stop worrying about everything. Ever so often I have to stop & say to myself “why are you stressing yourself out girl? Gods got you”. My bills are always paid, I never go hungry, I sleep good every night. If God wants me to wait on Him for my next step in life, then thats just what I have to do.
Next month I turn 25 & I pray Jesus grants me employment for my birthday. Some people want parties, trips & physical things, I just want a salary & some insurance w/ flexible hours so I can still do hair. Anywho, keep me in your prayers & the next time you guys hear from me God’s willing, i’ll be employed. Until next time babies, stay beautiful.