As year 27 QUICKLY approaches, I don’t think I’ve ever been in a better position emotionally, mentally, or physically. Honestly, I’m so proud of how far I’ve come, this post is low-key just a reminder to myself to chill TF out. If anyone told me two or even three years ago that I would be working as a counselor, while working on my licensure hours, running my own blog, working in a salon as a licensed cosmetologist with some of the best women I’ve ever met, be someones entire girlfriend, while still finding the time to workout AND throw community events, I would have told them they were a damn lie lol. Cause a few years ago I couldn’t even see past graduating grad school.
As I enter into year 27, there are a few things I’ve learned about myself. The first being
“Chalcia, you ain’t no punk!”
You know that one saying that everybody uses, goes something like “God’s not gonna give you more than you can bear?” Yes, that one. That one was specifically for me. Walking into year 27, I fully believe in the God I serve and the God I serve didn’t make no punk!
Every trial I’ve ever faced and every obstacle I’ve ever overcome has led me up to this point and as I become one year older on Monday, I pray for all the strength and wisdom that comes with it.
Secondly, I learned that
“I don’t give myself enough credit”.
I am waaaay too hard on myself, still. There are too many days where I feel unaccomplished and stagnant. Some days I literally beat myself up because I’m not doing what I THINK I should be doing or I’m not where I THINK I should be. With everything I have going on socially and career-wise, sometimes I just have to tell myself that I need to just sit my happy behind down somewhere and relax. I’m right where I’m supposed to be and you are too.
“I don’t take care of myself enough!”
Evidenced by this patch of hair that’s missing from my head, via alopecia areata. Sigh.
Accepting this has been really hard for me, especially being a hairstylist. Apparently you never really feel stressed, your body just has a way of telling you when it’s happening. Mine chose to attack my hair follicles but it’s cool, I ain’t no punk and the show must go on. I have so many things to do at any given moment, but when your body talks, we should listen. I’m learning.
I know someone can probably relate to trying to pull yourself in too many directions and not taking enough time to relax and regroup. Well, this is your reminder to TAKE A BREAK, Rome wasn’t built in a day and alopecia sucks.
Last, but definitely not least, I’ve been learning this lesson for years, but this year tested my gangster once again & I had to relearn the importance of
“not reacting, regardless”.
For instance, I had to deal with a situation right before my 26th Birthday where my car was left in a strip club parking lot after it stopped randomly while in someone else’s possession. I had to find a ride in order to go and get it towed and then spend $700 plus to get it fixed, all while being in cosmetology school full time, working for myself doing hair after school to make money. Only to find out recently that this same person never inquired about my vehicle because apparently “my people have money” or something like that (apparently my parents are rich and I had no idea).
….. PHEW! I will say that my mom and I did have a good laugh about it when I told her, so it wasn’t all bad I guess. People are human and sometimes they do shitty things…don’t react. Process it and rise above. The only thing we really have in this life is our character and don’t you ever compromise it because of someone else’s actions. It took my mom talking me all the way down & her reminding me that God is too good for me not to practice and pray for a forgiving spirit. God has forgiven me too much for me to not at least try to be like him and do the same. Plus He’s always going to take care of me, regardless.
How to be the bigger person in any given situation is one of the hardest lessons I have to keep learning over and over again, but don’t worry, God and I talk about this all the time. I’m a work in progress.
Year 26 was a little crazy, but oh so fulfilling. I saw myself grow into someone I dont even recognize sometimes (in a good way). My priorities have shifted, my support system has grown and improved tremendously, my work ethic is on steroids and I’m grateful. I’m so excited for all of the challenges that’ll arise as well as all the victories that’ll come with year 27.
Like I said, this post is a reminder to myself to keep believing in myself and my capabilities, to give myself more credit, to start taking much better care of me and to not react because things have a way of working themselves out. Hey, maybe this is a reminder for you too or maybe you’ve learned all of these lessons already and have tips for the kid. I can use all the advice and help I can get, I welcome it! if not, that’s cool too. Until next time babies. Happy early Birthday to me!💕